She was the first person I dated from San José, let alone from the East Side. We had both been living outside of California for a few years and were now both back in San José, in the closet, living with our deeply Catholic families. We understood the risks we were taking by dating. This community has not always been the kindest when it comes to people like us. Yet there we were – driving around town, sneaking kisses in parking lots, and talking about how much we love our city and how much it hurt to watch it be gentrified. She told me, “I’ve always loved my city, but I’ve never gotten to enjoy it with another person from here.”